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Grief and Our Shattered Sense of Security

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Have you been feeling the effects of our global transformation these days? I know I have. I can’t help but think that many of us are feeling grief on some level in the midst of this metamorphosis. The need to feel safe and secure is part of being human. However, we are now living in a world surrounded by continual change and uncertainty. The systems and constructs that once defined our world are under evolutionary reorganization. What we once relied on as being “normal” does not exist any longer. With the onslaught of alarming occurrences in our evolving “new reality” we are surrounded by unprecedented, storms, earthquakes, fires, the threat of nuclear annihilation, terrorism, political impotence and instability in our leadership, the list goes on. In this volatile world that “appears” to be gradually collapsing around us we’re finding that the sense of security we may have once felt has become more elusive or non-existent.
Despite all of this I am heartened by a possible silver lining. I am seeing a space for surrender to a higher awareness awakening on a global scale. Surrender may be our saving grace. The days of complacently and feeling the safety of the known are behind us. We as a people are slowly starting to wake up to the divine nature that exists within and around us. Many are starting to feel more empowered and are coming together to help one another and the planet.
The experience of losing my husband to suicide and my journey through grief over the past five years mirrors all of this perfectly. My loss felt cataclysmic at the time. The world with my husband and son at the epicenter that I came to rely on for 18 years crumbled around me in an instant when I found him dead. Life as I knew it with my false sense of certainty was no longer an option. I was faced with a choice. I could resist or I could embrace this change and my loss seeing it as an opportunity to evolve, grow and ultimately help others by sharing what I have learned.
I chose rebirth. It hasn’t been easy but the alternative of holding onto the past and what was is far more painful. This birthing process is a delicate balance of commitment, allowing, surrender and trust. Resistance is sure to raise its hand from time to time. It will do its best to be kept the status quo. There is comfort in holding on to the perceived security of what we know even if it no longer serves us. We can listen as our resistance insists on being heard, even giving it a space to sit at the table. Perhaps we can give it a new job. One of designing something entirely different. Something that could support and propel us in ways we may not have imagined. Then we can be on our merry way with the business of leaning into what is present and guiding us in any given moment. This is the gateway to our reemergence as a newly empowered individual. One of the many gifts that grief can bestow upon us if we are willing.
So the question remains: will we be willing to do this on a personal and planetary level? Will we be willing to step into the void trusting in our innate wisdom to guide us through this unfamiliar territory moving forward? The ever presence of change and love are the only things we can count on. Perhaps we could re-direct our fears and yield them to LOVE the ultimate authority of the Universe? I think if we were able to make that shift as individuals our world would follow and we would all be living in a very different place.
Change is inevitable. Maybe instead of resisting and fearing these dreaded changes we could let the fall season serve as a reminder that there may be another way of looking at this. We could let the trees with all their wisdom be our teachers showing us how we can gently and effortlessly release that which no longer serves us. When we are able to do that we allow for an opening to re-awaken just as the trees explode with an abundance of new growth in the springtime.
I invite you to find comfort by imagining that change of all kinds can actually be exactly what we require. Through our collective thoughts we are creating our internal and external realities. We all play a part in ushering in this long awaited re-birthing process on our planet. Regardless of where you come from, where you are on your journey or what your beliefs are this is the time to remember the light of your soul and the love that exists within us all.
Peaceful blessings and love,
~Cara Hope
Photo By: Cara Hope Clark
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