Photo By: Cara Hope Clark
Hello and welcome dear ones! I am grateful you have taken the time to stop by and check out my site. Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that I would be writing a blog around grief and surviving a loss through suicide.
All of us in this human experience inevitably find ourselves experiencing grief in our lives at various times with varied intensity. Grief never really leaves us, it reveals itself in cycles. We may have lost a loved one, a beloved pet, ended a meaningful relationship, lost a job or had a dream shattered. There are many faces to grief and many things that can ignite our sorrow.
My intention for this blog is to share my experiences with my own losses, particularly the loss of my husband to suicide on April 19th 2012. My life has been forever changed by this experience. I have been in the depths of grief so deeply that I have wondered many times how I have survived it. It has transformed me to the core and taken me to places I didn’t know existed and continues to have its way with me. My hope is that by sharing my journey with you I can in some small way illuminate and inspire yours.
Life does find a way and there are many opportunities to not only survive but thrive after our losses.
We are on a path that is unique to each one of us. Grief has the ability to crack us wide open to reveal the gifts that lay in wait for us to discover when we can allow and when we least expect it. If we can make room for this, knowing in our hearts, side by side with the grief, we can keep moving forward one small step at a time. All the while knowing we are always loved and cared for beyond our wildest dreams, guided every step of the way if we are willing to listen.
I invite you to join me as I tell you how I got where I am today, share insights, revelations and things I have learned along the way that have been helpful and supportive. It has not been an easy road to say the least but I am grateful for the many gifts and helpers along the way. I would not be here without the support of many in the seen and the unseen.
I would feel honored and humbled to be a part of your healing journey to feeling whole again. We all need a safe place to be heard free from judgement and to know we are not alone, especially when we are grieving. As humans we need to share our stories. 
Please feel free to comment or share aspects of your story and where you are with your grieving process. Let me know what has been helpful for you.
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It would feel pretty amazing to know that my words have touched your heart or been supportive to you in some significant way. If you are feeling that inner calling I would love to have you join me on this transformational journey! 
With deepest gratitude and love,
Cara Hope



4 thoughts on “Home

  1. Thanks for sharing yourself and your journey Kara, I know it has been difficult and it is awesome that you will be helping others. A major grief that I have experienced and I know many others have as well, is the loss of a beloved pet. It is difficult for non- animal lovers to know how profound the grief can be when losing ones best friend, it can even be much worse than losing a human loved one. I was practically immobile for over a year after my Zuna’s death and even almost 10 years later it still brings tears to think of her. Thank you again for providing this forum for people in need.

  2. Terra thank you for your heartfelt share! I know how much Zuna meant to you plus I think that you went through more than most with the traumatic circumstances of her death. Having that added layer complicates the grieving process. I am not surprised you experienced such an intense time of grieving her loss.

    You are right our beloved pets are so dear to our hearts when we loose them it can be devastating! They are our constant companions who love us unconditionally and teach us how to truly love without fear of judgment. A simpler or less complicated type of bond than we have with our human companions but the pain can be so deep when we loose them it cuts us down. We miss that sweet innocent companionship that special soul who sees us though all our ups and downs. I had a cat for 19 years. Her name was Keena. She was by my side for the end of my first marriage, 2 other relationships, 5 moves, my second marriage, the birth of my son Noah, and countless other trials that came my way in life. During some of my most painful times when I needed a good cry I used to sit on my stairs. There was something about the neutrality of the stairway that felt like I could let it all go. She would always drop what she was doing to come sit by my side lending me comfort as I was sobbing, tears flooding from my eyes. She was one of my sweet dear angles in kitty form who I valued immensely. We eventually had to put her to sleep, she had just gotten too old it was her time to move on.

  3. Hi Everyone,
    Kara thank you for doing this. It feels very important. And is important to me today.
    People call me JiMi meaning following the inner beauty of life.
    My husband died 14 years ago, and it seems like 6 months ago.
    He went to work on the big crane like he did everyday, and they said he had a heat stroke. Only within two weeks he, that giant hunk of a guy, couldn’t walk anymore. He was diagnosed with Primary Progressive MS and within 18 months he died as a quadriplegic. I chose to be home with him, us. Our souls were bound from the moment we met. There was never a doubt that we would walk the journey together. Not long after his first episode, we found out that as a Marine he was exposed to chemicals.

    A month after he passed, I went into silence for 2 years. I lived with my dog on a 35 acre ranch, self contained and wondered if we as humanity could live in natural order with our world. I painted, and talked with that which is greater than me, i communed with nature, I did ceremonies, and I listened to music really loud, I cried, and broke rocks and came out remembering that a love like ours, so deep, such deep friendship, such loving and kind ways, was super rare, and I needed to allow for life to just hold me.

    Since then I teach kindness in the world.

    I’ve never gotten over us, I don’t expect that I will. And as I woke yesterday, another day in tears, I thought I need to join a widow/widowers group.

    Thank you for being here,

    JiMi (G-me)

    1. I just LOVE the meaning of your name JiMi, So beautiful!!! How lovely too that you are teaching kindness in the world! Don’t you just love how the Universe can orchestrate things into perfect alignment so that you could find my site on just the day when you needed it!? <3 I also needed to hear your comment today it sooths me and helps me to feel that what I am doing is relevant. So thank you for that! It sounds like your path has been deep and I imagine your husband is still with you in spirit guiding you as you continue on this earth walk. I am so grateful that you have shared a bit of your story with me. I hope to hear more from you in the future. Much love you you! <3 <3 <3

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